Single women and Valentine’s Day

On Sunday, I arrived from Cebu City after a brief visit to Bohol on occasion of my father’s birthday. Being a sentimental soul, homecoming is not only melancholic; it’s very restful and relaxing as well. It’s very comforting and works wonders to the soul. ”There’s no other place like home.” That sums up everything.

Sunday evening, I was staring on the computer screen wondering what in the world to write for my column this week when my dearest Chavacana bonita amiga Cecile inspired me to write about “single career women in their thirties and how they will celebrate Valentine’s Day”. Ha! What a master piece but tough job. How to write about it?

Let’s start. A lot of women these days are single. They are not only single; they have financial independence as well. Others call it careers. I have lots of single friends – gorgeous girls mind you – with good jobs and in their thirties. You may start wondering what’s with the age-thing? Oh well, women have different perceptions of life at thirty. Some look forward to it. Some fear it. Others celebrate it. Still some others want to get over it – the sooner the better.

In this modern age and date when women are hailed for having careers and living life with gusto, a lot of women still feel lonely at the end of the day. They still feel a void. They desire to belong to someone and be loved by someone. Isn’t this a universal need? Even men want to belong to someone, be cared for by someone.

Thus, single women in their thirties, and not in relationships bond together to celebrate their lives by maximizing their talents and gifts, not to mention their money. Look around; you will see them in groups in bars, restaurants, malls, movie houses, coffee shops, gyms, other likely places they tend to congregate. However, for some others who have excelled professionally and financially, and are comfortable by their lonesome from time to time, they have difficulty connecting with men because these able women have “ways” that intimidate men. I guess you have heard of the phrase: She is intimidating.

Women who have independent minds, are accomplished, moneyed, and going places almost naturally intimidate men who are just upstarts. So pray tell, how do they connect? There’s really no point of connection unless the more established party goes down one level to accommodate the upstart. Yeah I know it sounds harsh but the truth hurts. In any relationship, either of the parties involved has a bigger sacrifice over the other. That’s how a relationship works. There’s no perfect relationship. All relationships entail sacrifice.

So what do we do with thirty-something single career women on Valentine’s Day? Tough question. We cannot play cupid and find them their Valentines. I will not volunteer for the job.

I guess it’s the same thing every year then, minus the years that they were involved in a relationship. It’s like any other ordinary day. They go to work and at the end of the day, they go home and sleep. For some others, they congregate together and have dinner in a fancy restaurant culminating in either singing or dancing. For the more romantic, two single career women or three can have either a dinner date or simply lounge in a coffee house, chat about their “miserable hearts” while soft music appeases their romance-deprived souls. Ah, who’s stopping you from inventing anything to enjoy Valentine’s Day. Some would probably watch a concert, show or movie.

Still at the end of the day, our single, thirty-something career women will always find ways and means to enjoy life on Valentine’s Day, Valentine or no Valentine. After all, human beings whether man or woman, will constantly work on surviving ANY lonely day.

So girl, cheer up! It’s just one of those days when you feel the lack. The upcoming days will be better. Just fill your life with the little joys of the moment while Valentine is finding his way to you.

Note: This article was published in a local paper sometime in 2008.


The lady with humble beginnings


Another lady enjoying the power industry.

What inspires us motivates us. Meet Maris, a brainy lady who finds inspiration from this quote: “Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time. Then your time on earth will be filled with glory.”

Maris is Marissa Go Rebayla Leorna, a Certified Public Accountant serving BOHECO I since April 2008. She married young at 23 to Pedro T. Leorna, Jr. The young couple was blessed with a son named Piolo. Sadly, Piolo passed on in June, 2012 due to complications arising from his multiple congenital defects when he undertook intensive surgical procedures.

She joined the power industry because she found a suitable employment opportunity that enables her to prove, enhance, and challenge her ability and competence, as well as her commitment to work. Indeed, she is in the right industry. For most young and competitive professionals, the evolving and expanding power industry is an alluring challenge.

Maris believes that the most wonderful and valuable virtue she possesses is LOVE. She is convinced that all things are possible when you value love of God, love for family, co-workers, friends, and yourself. She believes that “No other success can compensate for failure in the home.” Indeed, career women must always balance the home and work fronts. It’s a delicate balancing act and task and Maris is determined to meet the challenge.

Maris is a consistent honor student from her elementary years up to her college days. She is an achiever, thanks to her parents Ceferino T. Rebayla and Thelma Go Rebayla who were very supportive of their youngest daughter’s dreams and aspirations. She is the youngest among four children.

Her parents are very simple people who had to work hard to realize their family goals. Her father was a Boholano “viajedor”, a vendor-peddler who commuted to and from several places in Mindanao where he met his wife Thelma Go, Maris’ mother. Her mother is the eldest daughter of Ohhya Go, a Chinese businessman from Mindanao.

Maris comes from humble beginnings. Her father is a high school graduate who presently drives his own jeepney while her mother Thelma is a homemaker.

The family originally hails from Talisayan Misamis Oriental. Back then, they owned a store but a fire razed it when the entire market of Talisayan was burned. To start anew, the family relocated to Bohol.

Like this author, she likes reading books. Her choice cuts include Beauty of the Ashes by Joyce Meyer, Secrets of Success by Sandra Anne Taylor, among others. She likes watching TV shows that entertain, and having great conversations with friends. Her one and only sports is badminton which is also her form of exercise.

Very young at 32, Maris has still a long way to go in the power industry. Personally, she is excited to enlarge her horizons. Grounded on the Boholano’s old-fashioned values of honesty, trustworthiness, hard work, flexibility, grace under pressure, and deep faith in God, Maris is yet to conquer the wide horizons.